Parenting

Going back to school

When the kids are homeOr on holidayI wonder when I’ll getSome time for myselfTo just rest my headWith nothing to think of When schools are to openThe realisation dawnsMy life is changingOh! What will I do now?Three hours to myselfA long time at a stretch Should I do my shopping?Or meditate instead?Should I write a … More

Holiday

As I recall our childhood summer holidays I hope our kids get to enjoy theirs as much as we did.  The berry bushes in the dense green foliage on the hillocks may now be replaced by concrete buildings and tarred roads but there is still a little forest cover left. The predominantly pedestrian village roads, … More

Why do some see kids as a setback?

I agree that having children inevitably implies that we may have to make some major changes to our lives. But, aren’t changes what brought us to where we are today? Change need not be negative.  We, as a family, are enjoying life. Others need not find our life as colourful as theirs and vice-versa.  I … More

Teaching by example

How do we teach children to respect others’ opinions and views? How do we teach them to engage in healthy debate to resolve differences in opinion?Will ordering them around or physically and verbally abusing them teach them any valuable life skills? Or will we be responsible for training them to be bullies like us as … More

Correction

Correction is so difficult for us to accept, even when we know we are wrong. Today I was standing in the way and obstructing the movement of parents collecting their children from school. The security guard, very politely, requested me to move and directed me to a clear spot. I should have been grateful as … More

Outdoors at last

As I watch the kids play with their neighborhood friends, my mind transports me back to my childhood. It reminds me of evenings spent playing with my siblings and friends in the open space in front of our house as our mother watched over us from the balcão of our Indo-Portuguese house. I remember the … More

Be who you want your child to be  

‘Be who you want your child to be’. I believe in this but it is very difficult. It requires one to look not only at but also within one’s self.  Our children not only behave and speak like us but also think and rationalize like us. Many a times, after correcting my child, I have … More

Parents as a support

Dr. Kenneth Barish, in his book Pride and Joy, addresses the need for parents to be supportive of their kids. He discusses this in the chapter “What Matters Most- Understanding and Support”. Aren’t support and encouragement  important to all of us? Why else do we turn to support groups or befriend those facing similar situations … More

FOLLOWING ONE’S INSTINCT

I completed the 3rd and 4th chapter of Pride and Joy. Both the chapters stress on the need for us to be involved in our children’s lives. The third chapter discusses our role in helping them bounce back from negative events or feelings, making them more optimistic and resilient by helping them understand that every … More

It’s Easier to Preach than Practice

When I reach a point of exhaustion/irritation/frustration or the likes, I realise that I have been lethargic in my parenting. If for some reason I stop the home schooling timetable then I find things get out of control. The process to get them on track involves a lot of tantrums and whining.But if you don’t … More

Helping my child overcome her nail biting OCD

I mentioned in an earlier post about working on helping my child (4.5yr old) stop biting her nails. At last we have been successful. It went on for 9 months which have at last come to an end. It would have been impossible without prayer and my mom’s guidance. When we want to be in … More

Dealing with infestations

Dealing with lice and worm infestations can not only be embarrassing but also overwhelming, especially if you are unable to find a solution. Pests do not check the social or economic status of their prey😁. They have no favourites.We had a long struggle with lice. It was a nightmare. No matter how often I treated … More

Are we unknowingly training our kids to succumb to peer pressure?

Peer pressure is one of the main reasons people are opting for homeschooling. But is keeping our children away from possible negative influences enough? How do we react when our kids do not want to dress in the way we want them to? Do we insist they are suited and booted so that they live … More

Guiding or dictating creativity?

This is something I’m still unsure about. I see a lot of parents preparing activities for their kids and they are so awesome and very creative. They teach their kids so many different concepts. I wonder how they do it. My kids seem to know what they want to do and don’t like to be … More

A child’s prayer

I was kind of taken aback last night when my daughter turned a deaf ear to my inputs while she was praying. She usually asks me to pray with her and she did last night too. But she said her own little prayer.  At a time when we are a bit stressed with covid cases … More

Are the “likes” worth it ?

We often receive messages requesting us to like and share a picture or video, more often of a child, to let the person concerned win a round in a competition. Think about it… Is it the art work, photography, beauty, performance or whatever the “topic”for the competition deciding the winner? Or is it just his/ … More

Is childhood really care free?

As adults we look at kids playing and think “I wish we never had to grow up!” and go back to brooding over our work and financial problems. But are children’s lives really so simple? Do they just have to eat, sleep and play? Let’s start by looking at lives of new borns. They just … More

How do I entertain my kids?

I have come across many parents who have asked me how I manage to entertain my kids the whole day. In joint families a homemaker has so much work to do but does not have to worry about entertaining kids as grandparents or cousins or uncles/ aunts are around and more than happy to watch … More