Developing children into Ideal Team Players

Patrick Lencioni’s “Ideal team player” is a fantastic read. If you are responsible for recruiting at your workplace then it is a compulsory read. Thanks to my husband bringing it home I got an opportunity to read and reflect on it. Just because I’m a stay at home full time mom, it does not mean reading and learning is of no use to me. The purpose of education is to put all your learnings into practice in our day to day life and not just learn for degrees and promotions. I try to take as much as I can and implement it in my parenting. Be it the bible (The best parenting book of all times! ), Leadership books (Learning about leadership during lockdown) or seminars (Parenting tips I learnt last month (sept-oct 2020)-I), Parenting tips I learnt last month (sept-oct 2020)-II and retreatsParenting tips I learnt last month (sept-oct 2020)-III; I have learnt a lot.

“The Ideal Team Player” discusses Humble, Smart and Hungry as the 3 virtues of an ideal team player. It is a very engaging read as it is put forward in the form of a story. A story of a leader named Jeff Shanley who is trying to save his uncle’s company by restoring its cultural commitment to teamwork. The book ends with a guide for recruiting and developing Ideal Team Players.

Be it family, our social groups, school teams or work places, we need to work with others, as a team, so as to achieve our goals. Keeping this in mind I have tried to list ways in which we can mould our children into Ideal Team Players. Do read through and share your views and suggestions. Let us together shape our future generation into one that works together to make this world a better place.

Humble – The best way to teach children humility is to be humble ourselves. Little actions like respecting people around us, no matter who they are, addressing them by name, especially our watchmen, office housekeeping staff, etc and thanking them when they leave for the day. If we do the same wherever we go, including in restaurants, where we often tend to forget to thank the waiter and the boy who picks up the dirty plates, then watching us our children will learn to be humble and to respect everyone, making working with them pleasant.

Smart- Here the author is not referring to one’s intellectual capacity but instead about being people smart, that is knowing how to deal with people. This can easily be demonstrated by us so as to serve as role models to our children. During a conversation with anyone, especially our child, we need to respect the other person’s point of view, ask good questions, listen to what the other person or people are saying and stay engaged in conversations. In my post reviewing a few leadership books with the parenting perspective (Learning about leadership during lockdown) I have covered up a lot on how to deal with others smartly.

Hungry- A hungry team player is always looking for more. More to do. More to learn. More responsibility. They are self driven and self motivated. Many times children are hungry but we tend to train them to be satisfied with what comes their way. If they want to know more about a subject of interest, then instead of investing in books we tell them to concentrate on the other subjects they have not studied. We need to discuss topics beyond their school curriculum. We should show interest in their books, especially subjects they are not very comfortable with. Avoid saying that you will send them for outside tuitions since you don’t like the subject and it is very tough. Instead read the books and say that you will get them help as you may not be able to explain the subject well. When they ask questions we should encourage them to find the answer. If we know the answer we should tell them and also try to validate our answer with research. Telling them more than they ask and show interest in exploring the topic will hopefully develop in them an interest in research. We all have bad days. So if we remember putting off a question because the timing was not right we should see that we get back to our child with an answer (even if it is a possible answer).

A little effort from our part could go a long way in making our children more desirable in society.

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